April 25, 2009

.to those who feel they can't give.

yesterday i caught myself thinking... 

"if he knows my relationship history, he should know that i'm doing and giving so much more than i use to. hence, he should feel lucky and shouldn't expect too much of me."

but really... what bullshit.

fact is, he has all the rights to expect the most from me, if not all that i have... because ultimately, its for "our relationship". 

regardless of how my past use to be, fact is, if i've made that decision to be with him, how dare i ask for concessions on how much i feel i can or should give? especially when its made in comparison to what i had given someone else before. shame on me!

rather, i should be feeling that i want to give him all i can... in fact, i should especially want to give him more than what i've given someone else before if i truly want him, and "us" to work. and really, he shouldn't have to settle for or tolerate anything less.

... and if u (u being anyone who has thoughts like the above) think thats unfair to u and honestly feel u can't possibly give as much as u know u can and should because of your past or personality or whatever and thinks he's not being understanding, i think it really means u're not ready to be in a relationship. especially if your counterpart is already ready to give his/her all.

bottom line... either don't be broken or don't waste anyone's time.

6 comments:

minuteman said...

i agree whole heartedly with you..if only everybody thinks the way u think.love and life will be less complicated

.lennie.sam.lee. said...

:) my idealist views...

hopefully im able to do what i say. :P

minuteman said...

haha!that's always the hard part.but i have a lot of faith in you.i think u'll walk the walk and talk the talk.:)

.lennie.sam.lee. said...

:) aww. thanks for the motivation...

so minuteman... are u someone i know in person? :)

minuteman said...

haha!i don't think you know of me.maybe our paths might had crossed or we might had spoken to each other in passing.but that said,im just a stranger that happens to pass thru ur blog :)

.lennie.sam.lee. said...

lol nice... :) a response i can definitely smile at. thanks for the return visits... if u had a blog, i might wanna visit it too. :)