i recently admitted that i get defensive in arguments very easily, and tend to argue defensively a lot.
now, disregarding the efforts i feel i've been putting in to change this 'habit', tell me, do i at least deserve a little benefit of the doubt that sometimes i may actually be arguing 'properly'?
because it pisses me off that now, as soon as i say something in an argument, it automatically becomes, "ooooh... sherlene is being defensive again! thats why she's not backing down!"
but what if i really disagree with something thats being said?
can i not say something without people thinking i'm taking things personally and being defensive?
AND ON THE OTHER HAND...
honestly, where's the wrong in saying something to defend myself when i actually do feel the need to speak up for myself?
NOW, be honest... reply as anonymous if u want, i promise i wont do an IP check. please tell me -
am i just being defensive again? or are people using my 'defensiveness' to judge my credibility and to simply overule my words without merits?
p.s. i hate it when people refuse to open their minds to the fact that their words actually ARE OFFENDING ME, and use "you're just being defensive again!" as a way to make me feel stupid for feeling offended when any so-called "non-defensive" person would have felt offended anyway!